Another year has passed us by, hasn’t it? Yet, 2019 hasn’t gone away without any remarkable takeaway for my life. I hope my shared lessons could benefit your path, if you are now reading my occasional blog post! Trust me you will learn more in-depth than from my social media posts in the year 😉
1- Scorpions Stink
Have you ever argued against someone so hard that they even blocked your call? Despite your attempts to mend that hot argument, you could only follow that person’s Facebook updates. Funnily, on one fine day, that person came back and asked you for advice about his financial crisis. Out of guilt, you thought you could share the loan with that person as to relieve his burden. Result, they’ve run away for good, leaving you responsible for the full amount! The story twist is, he also treated other people around you the same way!
Takeaway: Ask yourself twice or do your due diligence before you exercise your kindness to a suspect. Or this becomes oblivion or naivety instead.
2- Opportunities May Come to Us Unexpected, If…
As usual, I have always set up my dream boards with Mastermind Club as our yearly goals to look up to and achieve. Not all my travel destinations were completed. Instead, I took my small family to Singapore and Malaysia with our larger one. Besides, I was given the chance to attend TIFF in Japan and CSFF in China, almost out of the blue!
Takeaway: Set your goals, but also seize relevant opportunities because they may not come round.
3- Yogic Meditation Does Wonders
It was only till mid-November that I realize I needed yoga, often recommended by a Mastermind, Vanna. Despite multiple variations of yogic practices, RajaYoga only requires you to reflect on your spirituality and meditate with your eyes open (or optionally closed). As far as my skepticism could go, the real deal was more and more positive phenomena happening to and around me. For instance, my boss decided to have me focus on my main skill at work, as I long requested. Also, a huge business opportunity finally popped up, as I long expected.
Takeaway: You may not need yoga now. But what you need everyday is self-reflection and self-belief in your next endeavors.
4- The Less Expected, The Freer to Feel
Of 3/4 of last year, I spent so much time caring about small details that my follow-ups with co-workers intimidated their performance. Only in the last phase of our festival did I learn to keep calm and cool, no matter what happened. We lastly all agreed to do our best to make the 8th edition better, if not ‘best’. What turns out was a considerable improvement of audience number and positive feedback from our stakeholders.
Takeaway: If you learn to calm yourself down to cope with adversities, you should empower your colleagues to do the same.
5- Life Doesn’t Have to Be Linear
After quitting PuPrum, I thought I could freelance or even reset up my movie business for good. Yet, due to my varied side commitments between Siem Reap and Phnom Penh, I could only wait for confirmation of prospects and investors to close our deals until August. Yet, my small family is growing with steady ‘investments’ – if not expenses- in their upbringings. I came to realize it was only fair to them for me to land back on a full-time job. Until when? Who knows?!
Takeaway: Nobody else takes control over your life. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself alive and your family secure. People’s opinions about your changes don’t matter to your future.
6- Essentialism Breaks Bad Habits
You may tend to have a great deal of friends. But it takes only a friend to change your senseless habits, if you take his shared lesson seriously. That was when I read through ‘Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less’, recommended by Rithy, SmallWorld Founder. To me, his results seemed effortless. I felt so thankful to learn his secret!
Takeaway: Essentialism is not about cutting yourself off people and materials, but about prioritizing only what matters to your life and work.
7- Family (Still) Matters
Have you ever wondered why you burn that midnight oil or toil your way late overnight? Of course, don’t get me wrong as to encourage you to be lazy, as all efforts should echo some results. Yet, I’m here reminding us to take some time off for your loved ones, as well. If you only reunite with them in the evening, make your late hours count for them. If yours live far from you, spare a day or two per week to visit them. I’m sure you come back to work, not just energized, but also complete.
Takeaway: If you lose your work, you may find another one soon enough. If you lose your family time, no amount of money would be enough to make up for that loss.
8- Express Love, but Tame Fear
Although this insight sounds universally redundant, I believe most take it for granted. In the last few months, I’ve learned to love without expectations. I’ve learned to trust the ones I love with all my heart. Still, I keep admitting my insecurity when things go wrong and turn out different from my original plan. Then, I have two choices (or more): 1- To go with the flow (if the change rimes with my inner value) or 2- To accept it, yet communicate my principle (if the change reversed my personal code).
Takeaway: Embrace your fear, without affecting others, then, turn it your productive way.
9- People Should Prevail over Results
This lesson reflects on my experience with leaders I’ve come across so far. I was myself occasionally affected with such result-oriented approach. I learned the hard way that I may lose some (good) people by prioritizing only results. Here, it depends on your personal preference. And I’m neither asserting which one is right or wrong.
Takeaway: Choose your leadership style wisely. By all means, you’ll reap what you have sowed.
On my side/final note, as a movie lover myself, here goes the list of my top 9 movies of 2019 in random order:
1- Avengers Endgame
2- Frozen II
3- Ad Astra
4- Ip Man IV
5- The Clock
6- Marriage Story
7- Star Wars IX
9- John Wick: Chapter 3
I hope you can somehow relate to my happenings in 2019 and that you may have learned as much from some of the movies listed here, too 😉
How did last year go for you? Let me know in your comments (if any)!